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What is BDSM and how to get started in this sexual practice

What is BDSM and how to get started in this sexual practice

Do you want to get started in BDSM but don't know where to start? We'll give you some tips and advice to help you take your first steps.

It's possible that if you're reading this it's because you're interested in giving your sex life a twist.

Bondage fantasy is very common, and even more so after the stories of '50 Shades of Grey' became popular. More and more people are taking the plunge and talking about it with their partner, which can be a difficult time.

If you've already tried all kinds of Kama Sutra positions, the most fashionable erotic positions and games, and you're up to date with the most pleasurable sex toys, perhaps it's time to enter the world of BDSM.

How to get started in the world of BDSM? Maybe sex with your partner has fallen into a rut and you want to try new things. One of these things might be to propose a new unmentionable perversion in sex to your partner because someone has talked to you about BDSM and you have become curious, or perhaps you have simply remembered the stories of '50 Shades of Grey' and you have imagined yourself tied up with handcuffs. Whatever the case, you are in the right place, especially if you do not have much idea of where to start.

The intention is to give you some practical advice so that you can try a little of what a sexual practice like BDSM can offer you. In case you like it, the world of BDSM offers you endless possibilities to enjoy.

But, before we start, a warning. The fundamental principles of BDSM are respect and mutual trust, and always, before anything else, all participants must be very clear about the limits of what is going to happen, such as, for example, dirty talk. If we guarantee that, everything else is allowed.

What is “BDSM” as a sexual practice?

BDSM is a term created to cover a group of freely consensual erotic practices. It is an acronym that combines the initial letters of Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism.

One of the main characteristics of BDSM, as we have already mentioned, is that it is always based on the free, full, informed and current consent of those who are going to participate in this practice. It is completely different from radical sadism.

  • Bondage

    The term "bondage" is often associated with ropes or other restraints, which are often used in BDSM. It is also associated with restraint, i.e. tying up or being tied up for sex. If you are the one doing the tying, try not to be too tight, but tight enough so that the other person feels like they can't just let go. Discuss before you start whether they find the pressure you're using to tie them up comfortable or whether they need you to ease up a bit. Another very simple element that is often used in BDSM and that is part of bondage is blindfolds. Did you know that blind people have the rest of their senses much more sensitive than the rest? Well, it happens to all of us after a few minutes with our eyes covered: body sensations, touch, hearing, everything else is felt with much greater intensity. In addition, the fact of not knowing what will happen next also increases the excitement. The positions that you usually practice will take on a new dimension if one of the members of the couple is tied or blindfolded. Investigate which one is best suited to BDSM and which one excites you the most.

  • Discipline
    Discipline refers to erotic practices related to rules, punishments, training, behavioural protocols or positions. Sometimes it doesn't have to be related to objects; another classic BDSM practice linked to discipline can be spanking. Hand spanking on the bottom is a perfect way to get started in this world. If you've never tried it, you might discover that it's possible to get very excited with it. As we said before, start slowly, gently caressing the area and focusing the blows on the central area of ​​the buttocks. Increase the power little by little so as not to catch the recipient off guard. If you are advancing and this practice convinces you, there is a whole variety of instruments that can be used and are intended to give pleasure.
  • Domination and submission
    Domination and submission are complementary practices of power exchanges: one or more people dominate one or more people who submit. If you like domination or submission, you should know that it is a much more mental game, less physical, because the important thing is that you learn appropriate games for those facets and put them into practice with your partner. This is where role-playing with your partner can come into play. Some role-playing with characters (and costumes, for some) means that one tries on the character that corresponds to them. If that person is more dominant or submissive, it allows you the space to explore what it is for you to be dominant/submissive within the context of that character. You can start role-playing with a few lines of dirty talk in which one is the dominant and the other the submissive to performing very intense scenes with the same game of domination and submission. While role-playing is certainly one of the best ways to put this facet of BDSM into practice, it is also one of the most common sexual fantasies among men.
  • Sadism and Masochism
    Sadism and masochism usually go hand in hand as they are two sides of the same coin, so to speak. Sadism is used to refer to the erotic practice in which a person obtains pleasure by causing pain, humiliation or discomfort to another person, which would be masochism, that is, the practice in which pleasure is obtained by receiving that same pain. We are always talking of course about voluntary practices based on trust, which cannot go beyond the limits established by the person receiving the pain and can be stopped at any time. In order to stop these practices related to BDSM, it is very common to resort to safe words. One of the last tips to enjoy an incredible BDSM sex session is to establish a safe word between the two of you. It will be very useful when one of you wants to leave the fantasy and it will provide you with security.

It can be a lot of fun to get a BDSM set for beginners. They come in all kinds and prices and usually contain handcuffs, whips, paddles, feathers, plugs, vibrators... We invite you to browse our website for the accessories that best suit your fantasy.

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